{"id":3161,"date":"2011-06-18T01:52:29","date_gmt":"2011-06-18T01:52:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/?p=3161"},"modified":"2011-06-19T21:40:35","modified_gmt":"2011-06-19T21:40:35","slug":"hitting-the-lazy-button","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/2011\/06\/hitting-the-lazy-button\/","title":{"rendered":"Hitting The Lazy Button"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Aided by social communication tools, are we becoming lazy communicators with lazy friendships? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Yesterday I posed this question on Twitter: do you ever feel that your use of social media is resulting in more, but SHALLOWER relationships? Even perhaps making long-term friendships shallower? A few people responded with a hearty AMEN and few people said NO WAY. How about you?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not \u201csocial media\u2019s fault\u201d; the word choice of \u201cyour use of social media\u201d was very intentional. The tools are what we make of them, just like the tools that came before. And you know I love them as much as the next addict <\/del> enthusiast. Through them, I have met all of you amazing people and I don\u2019t take that for granted.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing, though, peeps. We must not lose sight of the fact that these *newfangled* communication tools will only take us so far in our relationships. They are better, IMHO, for forging new relationships \u2013 making initial connections \u2013 than at strengthening existing relationships. At least personal, individual relationships. Brand relationships, different story for a different day. I\u2019m talking about human to human connection here. Mano a mano\u2026Hermano a hermano.<\/p>\n

A couple of examples. Last week, I had surgery. A close friend promised me a phone call to see how I was doing. Now, like many of you, I am not a huge fan of the telephone. Except, perhaps, with her and a couple of other *old* friends. Well the phone call instead became a comment on my Facebook. Seriously? ITS. NOT. THE. SAME.<\/strong> Not everything in life can be accomplished with a tweet or a Facebook comment. And sadly, I\u2019m sure I\u2019ve done this, too. In fact, I know I\u2019ve done it. Yesterday. A close relative posted something on her Facebook about having a bad week and being in a wheelchair. Wheelchair? Really? I\u2019ve owed her a phone call for months, but did I do it? Nah. Instead, reply to Facebook post: \u201cDude what up?\u201d Man, that\u2019s some deep stuff right there\u2026I\u2019m sure THAT will make her feel better and show her that I care.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that social communication tools can\u2019t be used in a way that deepens relationships. Often, they can. But I am suggesting that our tendency oftentimes has been to take the lazy way out, using them as a poor substitute for communication that really needs to be happening in a deeper way, one that actually requires a little effort.<\/p>\n

Your turn. Agree or disagree<\/a>? See yourself in this post at all? Or are we all just a bunch of dynamic rock stars using social media beautifully to change the world one deep meaningful relationship at a time?<\/p>\n

Sue Spaight<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Aided by social communication tools, are we becoming lazy communicators with lazy friendships? Yesterday I posed this question on Twitter: do you ever feel that your use of social media is resulting in more, but SHALLOWER relationships? Even perhaps making long-term friendships shallower? A few people responded with a hearty AMEN and few people said … Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[137,618],"tags":[1329,98,1327,1330,358,1328,30,343],"class_list":["post-3161","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all-posts","category-susanspaight","tag-amen","tag-communication","tag-lazy","tag-no-way","tag-relationships","tag-shallow","tag-social-media","tag-tools"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3161","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3161"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3161\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3165,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3161\/revisions\/3165"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3161"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3161"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3161"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}