{"id":5802,"date":"2015-01-19T15:24:47","date_gmt":"2015-01-19T15:24:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/?p=5802"},"modified":"2015-01-19T15:24:47","modified_gmt":"2015-01-19T15:24:47","slug":"life-isnt-about-finding-yourself-life-is-about-creating-yourself-ronr","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.thesocialcmo.com\/blog\/2015\/01\/life-isnt-about-finding-yourself-life-is-about-creating-yourself-ronr\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cLife isn\u2019t about Finding Yourself. Life is about CREATING Yourself.\u201d #RonR"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The title of this post is a George Bernard Shaw quote I employ with my daughters in the hopes I will impress upon them, in a small way with a few words, what I will say here with many more words than their attention spans will allow. How many times have you heard that some person or other is on a quest to \u201cfind themselves?\u201d Many times we hear it in relation to a young person starting out in life to find their purpose, or when an older person jokes about what they want to be when they \u201cgrow up.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, the older I get and the more experiences I have and relationships I develop, the more convinced I am that each individual\u2019s purpose in life is to draw their own map. Throw out the recipe book, the paint-by-numbers kit, and anything anyone ever told you about who or what you should be\u2014and chart your own course.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time for some Return on Relationship, #RonR, with yourself.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not easy\u2014and it\u2019s not comfortable. We are trained from birth to make safe, reliable choices. In school we are encouraged to conform and not to color outside the lines; in business we are comforted by \u201cblueprints\u201d and case studies; the media shows us how we should dress, where to vacation, and who we should emulate.<\/p>\n

Think about it. The last time you went to the store to look for something in particular, what was your motivation? Did you see an ad for it somewhere, or read bout it in a friends post? Have you chosen a vacation spot because so-and-so went there and raved about the good time they had? When you think about those experiences, did you feel a little \u201clet down?\u201d Was the build-up of what you expected not quite what you thought it would be in the end?<\/p>\n

On the other hand, when you remember a time you went off the map and did something completely new, how did that feel by comparison? I\u2019ll be willing to bet that it was a much more satisfying experience\u2014maybe even exhilarating! It wasn\u2019t easy, you had to put more in, but you got more out. Maybe it\u2019s time for you to be the one charting a course that others will follow.<\/p>\n

When we were kids we intuitively leaned in the direction of creation. Making mud pies, finger painting and exploring was a lot more satisfying than playing with a toy, wasn\u2019t it? We were charting our own courses, creating something new, and finding out more about ourselves. In fact, kids can teach us a lot about the creative process (see Most Important Lessons We Can Learn from Children<\/a>).<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the uncharted experiences, not the guided tours, which truly help us \u201ccreate\u201d ourselves. When we listen to the inner nudge to do something different and go in a way that intuition leads us\u2014follow our dreams and desires rather than in someone else\u2019s footsteps\u2014those are the moments that define who we are and give us insight into how we can participate in the world around us. We shouldn\u2019t lose sight of that.<\/p>\n

So as you look ahead to the coming year, instead of trying to \u201cfind yourself\u201d by following what others have done, dust off one of the dreams you\u2019ve kept locked away\u2014one that makes your heart sing with anticipation\u2014and just for fun, plot out a plan to make it happen.<\/p>\n

Dreaming is an act of creation, and it\u2019s the wellspring of innovation. So don\u2019t stifle your inner creator; feed it, and open yourself to new possibilities.<\/p>\n

\u201cCherish your visions and your dreams, as they are the children of your soul; the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.\u201d ~ Napoleon Hill<\/em><\/p>\n

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Previously posted at TedRubin.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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